As a couple one thing that you are likely to want is a healthy and fun sex life. Whilst sex isn’t the be all and end all of relationships, it is a good chunk of what keeps you together. When you have been together for some time, you can find that your sex life starts to wane a little. Particularly if you are both busy with other things such as work, or are trying to raise a family.
Some couples try out role play, sensory sex and a variety of other ways to spice up their bedroom love life. However, one of the simplest ways that you can make sure that your love life is back to its best is with sex toys. Vibrators come in a variety of different shapes and sizes. Not only are there those that are designed to be used solo, but there are also those that are ideal for couples too.
But what makes vibrators a great idea for couples? Here are some of the reasons why we think that they may be a great idea.
Vibrators can be part of a healthy relationship
Some couples may be worried that introducing a sex toy into a relationship, means that they will ruin their normal sex life. However, this really isn’t the case. They are designed to be shared and enjoyed together, which means that they could even bring you closer together, rather than tearing you apart.
Vibrators give you a chance to learn more about each other and yourselves
A problem that can crop up in a couple’s relationship is that they don’t know what the other one wants in the bedroom. This could lead to frustration, and a less than satisfying love life. Using a sex toy can be a great way to not only explore your own pleasure, but also what things your partner likes too.
Vibrators can be used during sex
Whilst you may think that some sex toys are solely for use during foreplay, there are also those that are designed to be used during sexual intercourse itself. This make sure that women, in particular, feel plenty of pleasure and can lead to sex being all the more enjoyable between the two of you.
Vibrators can be a good workout for your vagina
As women get older, their vaginas can start to become less elastic and toned, as well as drier. This can have an effect on not only the sensations during sex for the women, but for the man too. Sex toys are usually bigger than a normal penis, which means that they will give the vagina a workout, increasing the strength in the muscles and the elasticity too.
They are great fun
Of course, the main point of sex toys is that they bring you both pleasure. But, above everything else, they should be fun to use too. Having the opportunity to smile, laugh and enjoy sex again is one of the most things, and is definitely something that you should embrace as a couple.
They come in a variety of shapes, styles and sizes
When you think of sex toys there is a good chance that you will think of the more standard approaches and designs. Whilst these are popular for a reason, there are a variety of sex toys out there that you can choose from. These include specialist toys for particular areas of the body, remote controlled sex toys and those that are designed to look beautiful on a mantelpiece too.
How to introduce vibrators into the bedroom
Think that you are ready to try out sex toys as a part of your sex life? If this is true for you, then the time has come to start thinking about introducing them. Some people may be put off because they feel embarrassed about using them, however statistics shows that nearly 60% of women out there own and use a sex toy, and of t hose women, 75% are married. They just don’t shout out to the world about it.
Another reason that you may be put off introducing them into the bedroom is because of your partner. Men can be funny, particularly if it is regarding their own sexual prowess, which means that they may not jump with joy at introducing a sex toy into the bedroom.
It is important that you reassure him it is nothing to do with his performance, and is more to explore not only your own pleasure, but his too. Make an agreement that you will only use them together, not alone, and this will make sure that you both feel comfortable about having them as part of your sex life.
Try also to pick one that isn’t too intimidating. Your partner should never feel inadequate or that he is being replaced, this could actually end up having a detrimental effect on your sex life in the end.
Why not make it a fun thing that you can do together? You don’t even need to head into a shop to buy one, there are a number of online stores that offer up sex toys that you can buy, meaning that you don’t need to be embarrassed about buying one.
Start small and relatively basic, and learn more about whether or not a sex toy is going to work for you, and then perhaps try something a little bit different once you are used to that one.
Ultimately, a sex toy can be a great addition to your sex life. Not only does it bring some extra pleasure to you both, but it can also bring you together too. Reminding you that sex can be fun, rather than a chore and making sure that you both focus on how great it makes you feel and how close it can make you feel too.